When we give advise that is not asked for it is truly a waste. Teh person does not even listen to it and does not understand your intention unless he / she is seeking help & ready to recieve it.
Often as parents we know what the kids are doing is wrong and we let them do it as only then they understand teh consequences. Moms know it when it is wrong but they will not appreciate it till they suffer. Some things only experience can teach like what is hot & cold - we let kids touch & understand.
Best way to help is Guidance
When a kid is doing a project , if we give our ideas in start we are destroying the chance of the child to develop his skills . But when we give our ideas when asked for , its guidance.
Best advise or help is the one that leads to freedom / independence. Telling the child how to do his project will defeat the purpose, but teaching him how to structure or where to find the info will prepare him for next project.
In Gita Krishna starts to speak only after Arjuna has reached the point of surrender & asks for help.
Unsolicited advise / help does not good.
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